“Wait, Is This a night out together?”: An innovative new Queer Podcast about Dating | Autostraddle

Welcome to “Wait, Is This A Date” the podcast about queer dating there is a constant realized you always needed, managed by myself, Christina, and Drew Gregory!

This podcast was born out of Drew and I also’s mutual passion for vocals memos and deep conversations about dating. We have been delivering one another voice memos for over annually now, going deep in the circumstances Drew loves about online dating (folks! fun! flirting!) and also the situations I detest about dating (People! Fun! Flirting!). We had been having an enjoyable experience, careful, and informative talks and honestly, it seemed impolite to deprive the higher community of these!

Consider all of us since your friendly area co-hosts, guiding you through very particular queer matchmaking conundrums because actually, directly dating podcasts could never ever. Conundrums like: How do you flirt via IG tales? How do you take very long, slow flirting one step further? Precisely what does it imply to believe individuals are into you? We are going to talk with the Autostraddle’s best experts, play some awesome particular video games, document on the pop culture crushes of the moment as well as, just be sure to respond to the endless question your occasions: Wait…is this a date???

Listen to the intro below and whet urge for food, and smash that “subscribe” button wherever great podcasts are distributed, therefore guaranteeing you an enjoyable August 11th, once the basic recognized episode drops!

Definitely follow all of us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate which means you never skip an occurrence (or a pithy bon mot)!

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Drew: Hi, I Am Drew.

Christina: And I’m Christina. Referring to Hold off, Is It a night out together? An Autostraddle podcast this is certainly centered on the question, “hold off, so is this a night out together?”

Drew: I am very thrilled discover.

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Christina: Yeah. I do believe we have been on a journey discover what exactly are times and just what are not times, as buddies, also as a people, I think.

Drew: Yeah. As a people. Definition, the queers, the lesbians.

Christina: Should we tell those queers and lesbians what our very own whole indealment is, like what we should’re as much as contained in this second?

Drew: Like exactly who we are?

Christina: Yeah.

Drew: Yeah. I could get first. My name is Drew Gregory. I’m a filmmaker and a writer for autostraddle.com, the internet site. I really do plenty of film and television feedback, and intercourse and online dating writing, and personal essays, and issues that incorporate all those situations. I am trans and I am a lesbian, and I feel like i will include a third thing because everything is in threes. Exactly what more? Exactly what otherwise?

Christina: Circumstances do go on threes. You have fantastic hair.

Drew: Oh, thank you.

Christina: You’ve got amazing locks, I think that’s vital.

Drew: Those are my personal identities. Trans. Lesbian. Great locks.

Christina: Those are the identities.

Drew: Yeah.

Christina: I have constantly mentioned that you might be a female of hair knowledge. I’ve usually mentioned that in regards to you.

Drew: Yeah. It is essential.

Christina: Yeah. Im Christina Tucker. I’m also an author at Autostraddle, if you possibly could accept it as true, exactly who produces about… oh, let’s just say whatever one thinks of. That is actually the ambiance. Also a lesbian. I’m Ebony. I don’t know who otherwise I am.

Drew: You might also need fantastic hair.

Christina: Ok last one, no, I mean, In my opinion this will be maybe a podcast of locks experience. Maybe that need to be the tagline, “a podcast of tresses knowledge.” I guess people are probably wondering how exactly we reached this podcast specifically.

Drew: Yes. And like every neat thing in daily life — and also by that I mean, really, very few — it began as a highdea, as something which I sent you in a voice memo, large. And going back further than that, we started delivering sound memos together at the start of the pandemic.

Drew, in a voice memo: Okay. I am merely likely to inform you such as the feelings that You will find, and after that you may go from that point and respond to myself, maybe not reply to me personally, whatever. I’m similar to, that is me personally being immediate and obvious. Okay. I will be somebody who… I like speaking about online dating. Its certainly my personal primary subjects of conversation. I’ve now stated my piece.

Christina, in a voice memo: Many thanks for saying the portion. Also, six moments and 54 mere seconds. Truly, quite remarkable to get that call at that length of time. I hardly ever really think about dating. I think, possibly, an opposite sense of both you and your want to think about internet dating and mention internet dating and, like, end up being matchmaking. I do believe those tend to be my feelings. Well, I’m sending a Drew-level vocals memo, a Drew-length voice memo now. I will send this.

Drew, in a voice memo: Yeah. I understand that you don’t contemplate internet dating, certainly not just as much as me, possibly below someone else I understand?

Christina, in a voice memo: In my opinion about matchmaking lower than practically anyone I additionally know. I’m not sure. We truthfully do not know basically’ve satisfied anybody who doesn’t contemplate internet dating as far as I perform or as much as I you should not, I guess.

Drew: We failed to really know one another. We had been peers at Autostraddle, but for people who don’t understand, Autostraddle is an online office space. It really is a lot more of a Slack circumstance than a, most of us arrive to like lesbian headquarters including briefcases. That’s not truly the ambiance. We don’t truly know each other. After which, the beginning of pandemic, there seemed to be some DM sliding and some friendship building plus some voice memoing. Therefore we would constantly joke that it was like we had a podcast because we might send these extended sound memos. Immediately after which as I was actually stoned, I was want, “We in fact should.” And right here the audience is.

Christina: Yeah. I am aware everything suggest by high a few ideas not at all times becoming the best tips, but I do have a really clear recollection of hearing you declare that and being like, “Yeah, naturally we ought to have a podcast. We’re performing for every some other. Have you thought to invite other individuals engrossed?”

Drew: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. Often my personal high a few ideas are such things as, “Oh my personal Jesus, there ought to be a TV tv show known as Discover Your Own Celebrity Twin, the place you take a celebrity then they fulfill a person that — like a haphazard one who has actually their own identical beginning chart. That can, is regarded as my personal high ideas that i do believe is great. Its like…

Christina: Yeah, first and foremost, TM, Drew Gregory, copyright laws.

Drew: That’s a free of charge one. I really don’t care and attention.

Christina: No, it is not. Drew, I’m getting you money, my goal is to be your money supervisor for that. Absolutely not.

Drew: I recently need to see these things in the world. Generally, this really is a dating podcast, a queer matchmaking podcast. Plus one reason exactly why it really is that subject, in lieu of numerous other items Christina and I also talk about, is really because Everyone loves matchmaking and Christina will not love matchmaking and that’s a fun little.

Christina: Less of an admirer.

Drew: And dispute is really… That’s where drama takes place. I do believe Socrates said that.

Christina: Absolutely.

Drew: And that’s why that is our very own subject. We are going to protect all sorts of things.

Christina: Yeah. We’re going to speak about most of the most useful queer dating conundrums, internet dating via Instagram.

Drew, in audio clip from future episode: Correct me personally easily’m wrong, but i believe Instagram is best queer online dating app.

Shelli, in audio clip from potential occurrence: A thousand %. This is the best.

Christina, in sound video from potential event: I’ve heard this off their queers.

Shelli, in audio clip from potential occurrence: Definitely. It offers you virtually all you need, unless a person’s personal. But even though you’re exclusive, child, I’ll discover the truth about you, some sort of method.

Drew, in audio clip from future episode: We are going to discuss the very best intercourse we have had.

Dani, in sound clip from future episode: Then At long last asked like, “No, did you run-over here for intercourse? Are we probably have intercourse?” And so they happened to be like, “Yeah, that is what i desired.” Also it was actually like, the pet and puppy happened to be when you look at the place so there ended up being cat and dog hair every where. And I ended up being like, absolutely having an allergic reaction while we had been having sex. The climax was actually, like, cook’s hug. It absolutely was the most perfect experience.

Drew, in sound clip from future event: Wow.

Christina, in audio video from future occurrence: We ponder when it’s anything towards hives that basically added. Like just a little ‘jenesequa’ to this climax experience. It had been like, “Ooh, i am only a little itchy in addition.” We ponder how much that elements. We’re discussing simple tips to break-up with individuals.

Ro, in sound video from future event: It feels like a very directly lifestyle thing, as well.

Christina, in sound clip from future occurrence: Yeah.

Ro, in sound video from potential event: About in my experience, personally i think like… My personal straight pals are the ones that are more likely to say, “Well, bang see your face. See your face sucks,” if I finish a relationship with some one. While, queer folks in my life are the ones that are very likely to keep friendships with exes or at least see our exes in a holistic way.

Christina, in sound video from potential event: Anything you could imagine in an online dating podcast, and I’m maybe not gonna sit for your requirements individuals, in addition much more. Over you could ever think of.

Drew, in audio clip from potential occurrence: If you are sexting via book, would it be like what you want them… are you presently performing role-plays of a situation, like “you’re coming in contact with me personally immediately” or “If only you had been holding,” what tight tend to be we in?

Kayla, in audio video from future episode: Yeah, I became planning ask similar question, actually, for the reason that it’s something which’s always fascinating in my opinion, particularly because we are all experts, in addition.

Christina, in sound video from future event: I happened to be likely to say, a group of article writers like, “What tense are we operating?”

Kayla, in sound video from future event: Point of view.

Christina, in audio video from potential event: It really is an in depth third, what’s occurring here?

Kayla, in audio clip from potential occurrence: Like, strictly second?

Drew: Listed here is finished . about queer folks. Without a doubt.

Christina: Okay. Pull-up a chair. This is the TED Talk. Let’s stop.

Drew: There is so many encounters and tend to be a lot more interesting. Simply whenever I think about the manner in which directly men and women speak about online dating, it really is therefore boring. And that I think so typically, queer dating discussions tend to be extensions for the popular dating discussion, but incorporating such things as “being released” and “first time you are with a blah, blah, blah.” It really is like — there is a lot more nuance in so many more… Its thus exciting. Exactly what a global it is, queer intercourse and queer dating.

Christina: We’ve used just like the very classic kind of boring structure of heterosexual relationship and extremely introduced it into another world, filled up with lengthy conversations and handling all of our emotions. It really is amazing work.

Drew: Yeah. I’m truly excited and that I wish all to you are excited, because our very own first event happens per week from these days after which, there will end up being new periods every Wednesday.

Christina: It has been one week until you’ll hear our podcast. Nailed it. Crushed it. Yeah. Every Wednesday, you will not merely get To L and Back on Mondays, you’ll receive Hold Off, Is It A Night Out Together? on Wednesdays.

Drew: And I co-host both, so if you hate myself, I guess you aren’t enjoying Autostraddle podcasts. Incase you do like me, you’re pleasant.

Christina: Also, unless you like Drew, become adults, is really what I have to say.

Drew: I’m not for everybody, I’m okay with this. I do believe it’s probably good to not be for all of us.

Christina: Positive. I believe that’s entirely fair. And maybe a subject we can easily go over on one of one’s future symptoms. What are the results when you are not for all? I loved that We moved like, “Ooh, let’s get this all-inclusive.” What goes on when you, we, as individuals. You stated, let us perform an entire occurrence in regards to, “let’s say I am not for all of us?”

Drew: Really, it is Leo period and I also’m a Leo increasing and that I decided making it about me. 00:09:54].

Christina: As am I. Thanks a lot very much.

Drew: We are dual Leo risings on this podcast, and that’s section of why it will be great. It is possible to pay attention to all of us wherever you tune in to the podcast. It will likely be a pretty regular podcast situation. Nothing elegant, no riddles must be solved to get the occurrence, it will be immediately obtainable.

Christina: Not the boss of you. There’s lots of options, would what you will.

Drew: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Okay. Well, you might get us on Twitter and Instagram at @waitisthisadate. And you may email all of us at waitisthisadate@gmail.com. And you can get a hold of me personally on Twitter and Instagram and TikTok at @draw_gregory, my title in our tight.

Christina: You will find checked the social media addresses often times and that I have not, until this minute, realized it is “draw.” Wow.

Drew: Yeah. Really this is the thing, Drew was actually used and that I don’t know how… Oh, I became internet dating some one which actually… really this person which we dated, i did not get loads off that relationship, except I mentioned this idea and she thought it was thus funny, like also amusing, truly, like part of the problem, i do believe possibly. And I also was motivated to do so, and it is simply stuck.

Christina: Wow.

Drew: But yeah. Sometimes men and women believe i am an aesthetic singer and you know what, I love to be considered like that, but I can’t, I do not obviously have design skills.

Christina: I am going to state you’ll find nothing on brand for Drew than becoming love, “Oh, that is your own Twitter handle.” And also you being similar, “in fact, its a funny tale about matchmaking.”

Drew: Yes, exactly.

Christina: Best.

Drew: What are your own personal manages, and are also they linked to your own passionate existence?

Christina: Simply, no. You can find me personally at @c_gracet on twitter.com, the website. And in case you want to discover me on Instagram, you can certainly do therefore, at @christina_gracet. And it is really courageous of me to understand my own personal Instagram handle.

Drew: Incredible work.

Christina: Cheers plenty.

Drew: It’s always a happiness to talk to you and i am so excited to jump into many of these interesting subject areas. And our very own listeners to make the journey to understand you a little bit much better and obtain to… In my opinion we can all, I think we are all attending discover about trip.

Christina: I’m hoping so. We signed up for understanding.

Drew: Yeah.

Christina: Like an university course of podcasts. That managed to make it appear to be a complete bummer. Very sorry.

Drew: I don’t know. I had some fantastic college classes.

Christina: Demonstrably, I Did So also, but Really Don’t want to make anyone—

Drew: Can you picture how amazing it might be if you arrived towards university class and either people was actually the teacher, or we coached a class collectively, that’d function as hottest thing previously. People is like…

Christina: Finest solution around. Enrollment is actually off the data.

Drew: Oh, we should have an episode that’s dedicated to hot teachers. That is not appropriate.

Christina: That is not not pertinent. I’ll declare that.

Drew: Sure, sure. Personally I think like there might be — you have to make it some broader, but who knows? Who knows what is going to maintain tomorrow, and that is truly exciting. While know who can know? You, listener, as soon as you stay tuned every Wednesday.

Christina: You stay tuned and also you crucially hit that old subscribe switch and you can spend time with our team every Wednesday and ask yourself, “what exactly is a date?”

Drew: Mm-hmm (affirmative). Yeah. That delivers me personally to… I’m not sure. I happened to be merely wanting to know… was this a romantic date?

Christina: Drew, no. This will be a podcast trailer.

Drew: Oh, sweet. Okay. Great. Okay. I do believe I’m having the hang from it and you also know very well what’s great, is because I asked, today I know, now directly in communication is truly exactly what it’s everything about.

Christina: Asked and answered. The CT motto.

Drew: And something that a lot of people in our community could discover. So we’re going to, ideally, this is actually a service. This is less of a podcast and a lot more of a political act.

Christina: Wow. I becamen’t conscious of that, but i am excited to know that we are having both a podcast and a political work. Two of my personal favorite circumstances. Two of my personal favorite items to start off with P, podcasts and governmental functions.

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Christina, in a voice memo: I do believe my instinct is when i prefer an individual and I want them in my own life, I know the very best way for me to ensure that they’re in my own every day life is to ensure they are a friend.

Drew, in a voice memo: I am just so grateful that people’ve come to be these types of good friends. Incase out-of quarantine, that’s what happened, we made this unique brand-new buddy, whom i really like dearly and I’m only thrilled to talk to you usually, like exactly what something special.

Christina, in a voice memo: Dammit. I got a thought therefore went away. It absolutely was honestly probably really brilliant.